“I Want to Look Like Her”
I saw this statement on Pinterest today under a picture of a woman with a very impressive physique.
Immediately after reading the statement, “I want to look like her”, I had the urge to reach out to the woman who made such a comment and sit her down for a talk.
Instead, I am writing my post today about what I would have tried to get through to her.
I know the comment had nothing to do with me. I was simply browsing and just came across it on my own. However, the comment still bothered me in a way. The reason the comment slightly bothered me is because I ache for those who are not happy with the body they have been blessed with.
I realize she did not flat out say “I hate my body and I want hers”, but why have another person you want to look like?
Of course I have inspirations…
and so many more… heck, all of you inspire me each and every day!
Juliet has helped me in so many ways, too. I now have good form for squats thanks to her suggestion on using a bench to squat down onto before squatting heavy and fearing going too low.
April has helped me not fear increasing my calories to higher amounts than before.
Alexandra has helped me implement my bedtime snack earlier this fall. She was supportive and emailed me through it all!
So many of you inspire me, even if your name wasn’t mentioned, you still inspire me. I read your blogs and your words simply inspire me. Even those of you without blogs inspire me; when I receive your comments, replies, or emails hearing how I have inspired you inspires me!
But, back to the topic of the day, I believe that it is perfectly fine to have people to look at as an inspiration, like the beautiful women I pictured and spoke about above, however if you idolize a person to the point that you want to actually look exactly like them is truly unrealistic. If an individual begins to work toward looking like someone they are pretty much setting themselves up for failure because no body is the same.
Yes, I have definitely looked at magazines before and wished I had so and so’s chiselled abs or perfectly sculpted shoulders, but then I remind myself that I am Meg and need to be happy and appreciate what I have.
Much like living in the present moment, appreciating what you have instead of longing for something different is very important.
The happier you are with what you were blessed with leads to a happier and less stressful life.
We have two options.
Every day we can wake up, look in the mirror, shrug, and then turn to that Oxygen magazine and wish we were the monthly cover girl model.
Or we could wake up, look in the mirror and smile, appreciate what we have, be happy that we are alive and breathing and not wish we were any different.
I really loved this quote:
“The reason why people give up so fast is because they tend to look at how far they still have to go, instead of how far they have gotten.”
I can really relate to this quote because I usually forget how my life was a few years ago. When I forget about how far I have come over the years, I become anxious and begin thinking where I want to be.
“I want to get my shoulders bigger”
“My legs are still quite small”
“I am still not comfortable with all foods yet”
The above are examples of thoughts I get quite often; however, after I found the quote I shared above I began to realize how far I actually came.
I looked at pictures from last year. Did I have the shoulders last January that I do now?
Definitely not. I have come so far in my training and have gained a lot of muscle over the past year.
My legs are also more muscular, too! It was only this fall when I was able to deadlift 10 lbs. heavier than my own bodyweight and this summer I had never even performed a deadlift before!
As far as food goes, I have come far, too – very far.
I now have bedtime snacks which I was not able to do this summer.
I recently tried cocoa; a food that I had been denying myself (rather, ED had been restricting from my life.)
I have come very far over the past year and I need to appreciate what I have done, not what I want to do.
I wish I could have told the woman on Pinterest that if she starts appreciating what she has instead of aspiring to look like someone else she would be a much happier person (however, she might be very happy already – who knows!)
My point after all of this is is to look where you are now, not where you want to be.
Really look at the life you have. Look for the positive aspects in it. I know life isn’t perfect, but there is a positive light in every situation. Trust me, there is.
Be happy with who you are and where you are. Try to appreciate yourself rather than wishing you were someone else,
We are each our own person. If I had Jamie Eason’s arms, Erin Stern’s legs, and Aubrie Richeson’s stomach I would have quite the physique; however, I wouldn’t be Meg.
Maybe I was never meant to have huge legs like Erin, but I can work hard like I am and develop the muscular legs that I am able to have.
Genetics play a huge role. Look each of the three pictures I posted above. None of the women look the same; however, I classify all of them to be an inspiration of mine, but I do not want to look like them. I want to look like me, Meg, just has God intended
Would have the woman’s comment on Pinterest caught your eye? What would have your reaction been?
Reflect on where you were a year ago compared to now. What is one big change you have made?
Who are some of your greatest inspirations?